This time of year, especially in the States, we are flooded with reminders to be thankful and grateful for all that we have in our lives.
But sometimes life gets pretty tough, and it’s hard to find our thankfulness. It’s hard to stay in touch with our gratitude when we are experiencing loss. It’s hard to find joy in the midst of great tragedy.
So I just want to remind you today:
it’s OK to feel however you need and want to feel.
You don’t have to be grateful just because a holiday has come up. You don’t have to let go of what you are really feeling because of how you are “supposed to” be.
And maybe our feelings can be more than just either/or. Maybe we will be able to find moments of laughter through heartache, or find joy in reliving old memories. And maybe we can even find a spark of gratitude in tiny moments, in little gestures of kindness.
Maybe we can feel it all.
And maybe, when we say it’s OK to feel exactly how we are feeling today, we will notice becoming grateful after all – for the little kindness shown to ourself.
However you are feeling today, give yourself permission to have and express those feelings. I hope you are able to feel more than one way today, and I hope you know that you are never alone.